(I’m going to type this up as a blog entry & then decide whether I will actually mail the letter - of course y’all need some of the history!)
** yep, I know it’s “my truth” - putting things down in writing is therapeutic to me, & I’ve appreciated insight & feedback from my former sister-in-law if I DO decide to mail the letter!
Peran’s baby brother T (10 yrs younger, that’d make him 49 now) married a nice Hispanic girl from Phoenix shortly after P & I tied the knot in ‘02 (they had “met” & courted online). I had an ominous feeling when T uprooted A to start their married life in the UK (T had initially emigrated to PHX with Yours Truly serving as his sponsor, but wasn't satisfied with the career opportunities he'd found) - I suspected A wouldn’t be happy being so far removed from her family. She returned to PHX with their young daughter when she was pregnant with their 2nd. T has never forgiven me for giving her money for an attorney - it caused conflict between Peran & I also, but I will always presumptively side with the mother unless there is other evidence of neglect or abuse!
Dear A:
It looks as though you and the girls are well - it’s great seeing all your photos on social media at least! I had high hopes of coordinating a visit, as P was talking about coming out to visit T - however he just announced he is flying out next Sunday (the 21st) & will be staying for a week, which overlaps with my state veterinary conference, my big “team-building event” I’ve taken my staff to for the past several years.
Oh well, there’s another opportunity lost! How foolish of me to imagine that husband & wife might work in tandem towards our common goals; but unfortunately these days P & I seem more like amiable roommates... Things are not-so-amiable when he does things that actively undermine me, however! IF YOU DON'T WANT ME TO COME TO PHOENIX WITH YOU JUST SAY SO!!!
Now I will need to hire a pet-sitter when I leave for the conference - even though I "could" burn up the highway driving back & forth?!? but that would kinda negate the $200/night hotel room...
I understand processing emotions via the keyboard. Do it myself a bit, but generally the more extreme of them end up in "the bit bucket", never getting posted. Mailing a physical letter? Even more of a commitment!
ReplyDeleteHang in there, sorry the vagaries of others' relationships get in the way of yours with P.
(Of course it’s me, Val!) As usual, I was pressed for time & expressed myself poorly - as I re-read it, my entry sounds like the petulant bleating of a whiny toddler! I’m tempted to delete it, but will try try again w/Edit the 2nd… I debated myself whether to communicate via FB Messenger, email or regular text, but I for one still appreciate a good ol’ fashioned card or letter! I still have a stack from 25+ yrs ago, when my buddy Cheryl & I were pen pals before we leapt into the 21st century & began emailing…
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