Photo Dump (OKC)

 

Meeting room of the Fordson Hotel

Breakfast cafe of the Fordson

Mini-Riverwalk in Bricktown

Z & his favorite veggie at the Farmer's Market

Farmer's Market March (yes that is my finger)

 

Enablers

 (aka “Best Laid Plans”)

Of course, if you build something up in your own mind, the reality is bound to be a disappointment… I had high hopes for my little “Mommy & Me” weekend, when Victoria was traveling to a bachelorette weekend in Florida. The possibilities were endless: Z even mentioned a quick “return to Vegas” weekend but that was a little too high-stakes for me; Mommy suggested a road trip. Then of course it’s my own damn fault for envisioning/half-planning a West Texas trip: a return to Balmorhea & Fort Davis, where we toured when Zach was 12. (I bought day passes to Balmorhea since their entries are limited, but in the end that was just a $14 donation to TPWD. Thank goodness I hadn’t made hotel reservations!)

Originally, I had hoped Zach would be able to cut loose by Thursday night, but he got held up by complications at work & had to putter around most of the day Friday. In the end, we decided on an overnight trip to OKC - where Z travels quite frequently for work; he wanted to show me some of the sights. Unfortunately V was not having a great time in sunny FL & Z was having to field many calls from her… (9 girls in a bridal party sounds huge, so obviously there were many opportunities for interpersonal conflict!?!) We stopped to have a nice dinner along the way, where I gently asked Zach how many times had V called him today? He admitted “5 or 6” but I guarantee she had tried to call at least 10 or 12 times - if he didn’t answer immediately, she would call back again - a very annoying habit in Val’s book! (I had to disabuse P of that habit years ago when he was traveling - he also would try to call me multiple times; when I called him back I would say I’m no more likely to answer the second or third time in a row you called than I was the first!)

At any rate, by the time we made it to our hotel (we stayed in the historic Fordson which was very nice), V had worked herself into an intoxicated lather, so poor Z spent over an hour trying to calm her down… I tried to tell him there’s no reasoning with drunkenness! That should give them some good material to thrash out with their couples therapist [sarcasm]. But overall I think we made the best of it - OKC was very clean & quite impressive: we had a great luncheon at the historic Cattlemen's Restaurant & doodled around their stockyards & farmers market a little bit. I bought Twoie a new halter & upgraded my wallet - everyone was enchanted by Tina Fea, the tiny dog in her tiny carrier 💕 Fell into my own bed exhausted last night & slept for 9.5 hrs - unprecedented!

I will post a few photos after I go through the tedious transfer processes - I titled this post thusly as I continue to fret about things that are outside my control. One could also posit that P enables me since he is tasked with being my farmhand - I couldn’t keep up with my place without his help. A few friends competed in yesterday’s Tevis ride as I ponder when & where I’ll make my next meager 25-mi attempt.

I also got the sad news that my friend Carla‘s dad has passed away (age 97) so I’ve got to squeeze in an appearance at his memorial service Monday…

Chasing the Dragon

 (& in my own case, recovering from a minor singeing!)

“Val may be slow but she do eventually catch that clue!” - while I knew I had a mild hangover Sunday resulting from my minor indulgences Saturday night**, when I got up Monday morning still feeling rotten, I finally put the dots together & blamed the nuclear contrast material I was given last Thursday. I will never repeat this test - I would rather be tired for one day from a conventional treadmill stress test than feel like crap for a week!

** Les made scrumptious piña coladas, which I chased w/a couple of shots

I accepted a last-minute invite to a scrumptious Sunday brunch with Z & V - turns out we were celebrating next year’s marriage convalidation! They were on their way to a meeting with the church ladies lining up their ceremony for next February which will roughly coincide with their 1-yr anniversary. While things certainly seem to be back on an even keel in their relationship, I fear that V is always “chasing that dragon” of the next occasion, ceremony or event… Life cannot be an endless round of vacation, fancy dinners, or shopping expeditions. Yet, look at me, eagerly hoping to have some mommy-&-me time when V goes to her bachelorette party this weekend! Z has not committed to anything as of yet but I’ve thrown out several suggestions - One can always hope.

Gotta get on into work but I’ll try to tack on a few photos later

                                                 My rowdy crew around Sharon's lovely pool

                                                 Steak & eggs - always a solid choice!

Whoops, Val already took bites from my fancy grilled cheese

Scrumptious chicken n' waffle creation which we shared as "appetizer"

In Vino Veritas

 (Moving slowly this morning, thanks to last night’s indulgences… Riding buddy Sharon hosted an impromptu “too hot to ride” pool party - the food was great, but I should’ve respectfully declined the sampling of adult beverages. However, White Russian pudding shots are scrumptious!)

I remain obsessed with all things “Odyssean”; I came across this poem which is of modern heritage (2009) but found it evocative & memorable…

Penelope’s Poet

By Anthony DiMatteo | 1 December 2009

One woman's fact is another man's fiction.

– Lisa Jardine

 

I

I am unknown, not forgotten

But erased, no suitor of Penelope,

But her friend and lover.  I escaped

The wrath of Odysseus, shrewdest

Of men as he was, and I,

Most gentle, at least in the annals

Of the women of Ithaka in my time.

I defended Penelope's integrity

Against the lechery of Agelaus

And the other murderers whose eyes

Begrimed her unadorned beauty,

Her chiton without golden thread,

Her tresses, by me seen long and

Flowing, to the barbarous consort,

Born to do nothing but eat fruit,

Only the knotted ball of modesty.

She was crafty but pure

In her chastity, true spouse

Of Odysseus, who was not worthy

Of her cold fidelity.  To me

She came, just after the sun

Unfurls its roseate fingers

And Hesperus leads the way.

Near a mountain top she found me,

Having come there for once alone,

Not to watch the horizon for the ship,

But to leave everyone, especially

The thoughts and eyes of men.

She was wandering in the grove

Beneath the summit where I sat,

Tuning my pipe to the last light

Next to the spring as pure as she.

I was there puzzling my own fate

In love, finding little comfort,

The only solace afforded me

The slender harmonies of the shade.

She was laughing among flowers

When first I heard her, between

The silences of my long notes of woe.

I will never forget her first words,

‘O why not play the glories of the day

So sweetly you sing its sorrows?'

She pointed to the skies where she stood

In the light, flushed with

An inner glow that seemed the sun's.

My face turned red knowing how

She had heard my unburdening mind.

No further words need be spoken.

She seemed stunned when she saw my look.

Who knew not the beauty of the Queen?

But no one else I knew heard her laugh.

Weeks went by before the time

I journeyed to her house to sing.

Antinous mocked from his couch:

‘What tune can come from this dreg

Of the wood?  Where's Metrodorus?'

‘Metrodorus is ill, my lord,

His lyre broken in your games last night.'

So Doracles, true servant to the good,

A source of amity, as he'd prove to me.

That night of distant worlds I sang,

Laboring out the stars anew,

Of faraway oceans and many moons,

Of waves that spill over diamond rocks,

And Astraea's smile welcoming back

All the forlorn of the earth.  ‘Beat him

In his fit if he sings that way again

Or better yet, let's make of him

An Orphic stew and feed it to the dogs!'

But I persisted, by my master forewarned.

To Hermes and his love for this

Newest of worlds I turned my mind,

Of his desire for the myriad sea

Where eons of Time churn endlessly,

When the eaters of fruit stood up.

Penelope was on the stairs.  The gloom

Of the smoking meats could not conceal

The penetrating gaze of her solemn eyes.

 

II

The clatter of voices ceased, and silence

Emerged like a homeless child finally

Allowed to sleep.  Only my song

Drifted up towards her as the men

And housemaids watched her with eager

Mouths and eyes.  She was listening

To my rhapsody, its final chord

Drifting into the night, into the sea.

Then she turned up the stairs again

When Agelaus spoke. ‘Why not join us?

I have kept the best seat for you,'

Indicating the one next to his by the hearth.

She turned her head down to mute her scorn

For this refined man of Mantineia,

Where Arcadians defamed her Spartan claim

To kinship with the gods through Leda.

She looked up, calm and recomposed,

Looking into his eyes to deter his gaze.

Her words rang out clear and strong:

‘I heard the strange voice lifting up,

Singing of the birth of worlds, and I knew

It must be our bard's protégé.  Come forward.'

And so I did, averting her solemn eyes

As I unwillingly stood among suitors,

Barely shod and ragged, just one more man

In a palace of mirrors where all was desire

To behold and feast upon the beauty of her way.

Her words made me lift my head as if law.

‘Well versed and well taught in ancient song

You are, young poet, clad in leaf and sand.

Metrodorus's high praise of you is deserved.

But I would hear once more the sorrows

Of how new worlds begin, the spring

Of sadness and the setting sun.  Play on.'

And so I took up her theme that I knew

Secretly acknowledged our meeting in the glade.

First how Apollo and then Pan, I sang,

The universe and all creatures yield

To what even the gods cannot rule,

The lyre and the reed, all song

Out of longing shaped.  It drives the sea

And fills the fields with asphodel.

But what makes the swift huntress run

And the lonely moon rise?  Different still.

An abundance of streams is the world.

Who can fathom their endless flow?

Daphne and Syrinx are enshrined

In their own virginal powers,

Beyond the arms and eyes of love.

As I sang, she walked up the stairs

Slowly into the dark stars I could not see.

My whole song was her praise under shadow.

Eurymachus was first to break the lull

After song.  ‘You have upset the Queen

With your weird words and hymns.

We want festive tunes at a feast,

After all, and you're like a mangy dog.

Stick to the hills, outcast as you are,'

And with that, he struck me with a cup

Of wine, reddening me like a new born.

‘There, now you're fit to sacrifice

To the dancing boy, that faggy god

Thigh-born, your kind loves to invoke.'

Melanthius chimed, ‘Yes, hairy Pan

Better suits him than he does us

Though my sheep would run from his wails.'

‘Leave off this foolery,' Polybus commanded,

‘It's easy to insult a man with a lyre.

Put a sword in his hand and then mock.'

I slipped out into the night, to the star-clad

Cliff where I would find some peace alone,

Watching the heavens descend upon the shore

Of Dulichia across the way.

This hovel had become my home if an exile

Of love and loneliness can speak of such.

For the next few days, I felt justified

In my nomadic state, wanderer

Of the wild shore, sojourner of the woods.

Better to live among the birds and beasts,

Content in what they are, than human animals

Who aspire to be Titans and become insects

Of their own pride, hunger and lust.

Of the lore and life of Linus I sing,

First of the holy sages.  His footsteps

Traced through the grove the courses

Of the stars and how all things begin.

His voice calls me from an ocean inside

Though I am unworthy.  What choice

Do I have, what other fate can be mine

Since the visions come to me unbidden?

The path is the calling that Linus sang,

His song the open mystery of the wood,

The whole world under heavens

Where stars are leaves and oceans tears

And the child of Love dances among the dead.

Who feels not the miracle of the ever new

In the oldest of forests and the dew

That shines never again the same way twice

And makes life from air, earth, fire and ice?

O Walkers of the flame and of the wave,

Those powers without end, themselves

Maker of the gods!  The path is our own

Wherever we roam and the sky's ours

For a day.  Such prayer I hope

Advances the ancient way, shadow

Before light, the future come what may.

 

III

It was at night beneath the moist stars

Above the sea that she came back to me,

Seeker of my song, lover of my freedom.

A slave in my own eyes, in hers

A portal to the world beyond eyes,

Where she could in solitary walk

Be her own soul in the dominion

Of her hearth.  She surprises me

As I leave my hovel in a cave

Above the shore.  ‘O Queen,

Why have you come here alone at night?

Where is your escort, Melantho,

And your other maidens? It is dangerous

To be among the dark pine with all those

Suitors of yours pursuing you.'

She is in tears now, her head covered

In the shame and abuse she has suffered

At the hands of men.  ‘My father,

Icarius, is sick and dying, and I cannot

Succor him.  My own home is lost

To the mob.  I walk the night

To invoke Cybele among the firs.

Just let me sit by your fire awhile.'

I am speechless at her being there.

In silence beneath the night

We sit shrouded in the darkness.

I look away to let her be

As she reaches out to still

My hand trembling with fear.

‘You need not be afraid of what I want

Or of what will be said, Archias.

I have come just to seek some peace,

Slipping out down the stairs while they slept.

With my son gone off, I can trust

No one in my own house, but you,

You will lend me an ear, all I ask.

I know of your wisdom in dream lore,

And I have need of your counsel.'

‘My master has doubtless praised me

Beyond my worth, and I am your servant

Who dare not advise you, my Queen.'

‘Just listen to my dream and tell me

What it is the gods would have me do.'

I sit there watching myself

Listening to her as I hover in the air

Hearing the deep tone of her voice

Like a sea gently swelling the night.

‘I see a giant rise above the horizon

Towering up from the land to walk

One step into the ocean.  Eagles

Attack his massive head to no avail

For he swats them away.  He laughs

As the sun sets, growing higher than ever

Until suddenly he bursts into red sand.

Then a woman comes along the beach

And gathers all the glittering dust

That had been the giant into baskets

She is weaving out of her own hair.

She works and works with eager hands

But she begins to weep, seeing her labor

is endless.  The waves bleed red.

I wake, deeply moved by this strange vision

That makes little sense at all

Though it lingers for a week inside

Until another dream, weirder still, comes to me.

Whatever you can make clear, give me.'

‘What little could you make of it?' I ask.

‘Remember your waking thoughts.

What made you feel especially sad?'

‘I felt no grief for the woman and

Certainly none for the giant, but the dream

Disturbs in ways I cannot understand.'

The sea swells beneath us, the crests

Pounding the cliff-side white in frenzy.

A silence follows as I watch the horizon

Where a bird flies downward from the heights.

I think of her great spirit within.

‘Yet, my Queen, from your own mind

Glean the sovereign truth of your fidelity.'

‘This sounds like flattery, Archias.

My title befits me little like a basket

Of my own hair, a crown of sand.'

‘Yes, my Queen, but not inside you

Where you are just, good and wise,

Leading a life of dignity in the midst

Of squalor and the mire of men.

No one can steal your glory there

For that sun and its light is all your own.'

‘But by that cold light it is hard to live

When hearth and home are not your own.'

‘Yet all must crumble into sand, o Queen.

We walk into light curling into the past

Like the foam of the wave receding.

And this is the way, where the bird sings,

Where the pond is too broad to leap.'

‘Yet who is this woman on the shore?

I am not her, grieving for a giant

She cannot hold.  And the red waters,

What are they if not the flux of things?

What had once given life in the blood

Returns to the ocean of time inexhaustible.

Each one of us is but a pebble

Though our lives to us seem gigantic.

The basket of life spills out once and forever,

And that is all of eternity we can know.'

‘I see you are wise in fable and lore

And have found the wisdom of the dream.

What is it that you would have of me?

I will do anything to serve you, my Queen,

But how can I possibly counsel you?'

‘You speak of a world always beginning.

I would find some strength in that.'

‘Let me hear the second dream that struck

Your mind like this one, a portent.'

‘Yes, a sign, but not of things to come,

I think, but of the past, the crumbling giant

Of yesterday bootless to weep over.

But in this other dream I feel a mystery.

Listen, o poet, to this marvel of the night.

I am flying in the dream watching myself

Sitting on the roof.  The night above me

I have unwoven from the day, both shroud

And sheet, the work of day and night

From my own hands.  The flying woman

And the squatting, neither one I am.

I see the horizon like a painting

In a shutter I can close, and so I do.

I walk down a hall I have never seen,

And there are statues in the rooms

But I do not turn to look at them.

They seem everywhere so I hood my eyes.

What others think can turn you into stone.

So that is not my goal.  I see a forest

Ahead where there is an opening

Bright in the noonday sun.  A stream

Echoes through the woods, drawing me on

Until I come to its dark bank and the light

Of its shimmering rocks.  Deer run off

As I enter the stream to drink, the pure

Cool waters enveloping me, the sky

Above dancing like a bird between trees.

I feel delight and joy as I never have before

At the mossy top of a waterfall,

And I am free to sing and laugh.'

Half dreaming this dream again, she turns to me,

As if fallen from a moment's peace, troubled in her gaze.

I look deep into her gray eyes and softly speak.

‘Into the liberty of that place no one

Can enter for it runs off like a deer.

Is this not the way of Artemis?

The very path of her arrow is the purity

Of the moment that will never come again,

Yet it is there we live the body's life alone.

Whatever invades us there will be

Devoured, the just wrath of what we must be,

Our soul immersed but not hidden.

Beware the flatterer and the spy, my Queen,

Be strong against them, the way the goddess

Does to Actaeon first what he would do to her.'

She laughs and after a while retorts,

‘But surely that old myth does not imply

How one must live in the body alone?

It is how women can be strong

In turning the gaze of men back upon them,

To let them be devoured by their own lust.

I have learned that look the hard way.

I am both at the top and the bottom

Of Ithaka, richest of pawns,

Most powerful in my poverty

Where I will learn to live in some peace.

I do not ask for what cannot be.

Let that witch of time turn men to slime

If that is what they will. They can dally

Like statues and blame the gods for their fate.

And their wives can join them too

Hollowed into shells by what they cannot have.

If Odysseus never comes back,

and even if he does, what of my life?

The leaves quiver upon the bough.

The curlew works at what the sea has left.

I cannot stay upon the bank like a stone,

Unable to do what my way decrees.

And it would be wrong to find no joy

In things that must be.  That is the wing

That will hold me in place however hard

The path turns in the wood.  I need to live

Inside where the forest offers its light

And the stream runs fresh and cool.'

‘And that is the moment of the kairos,

My Queen, the dancing child of the universe

That forever must laugh, or we die.

But what is it that you would know from me?

You draw wisdom from your dreams

Better than anyone I have known.

My mind can be no more than mirror

To your own and say what you have said.'

‘What I need from you, you have given already,'

And with that, she kisses my forehead,

And then my lips, and we float

Into sleep above the shore.  This story

Of our care may unravel the legend

Of what has been formed out of its erasure.

Penelope was as free and strong as her mate.

And she taught me much about the world.

Be faithful to yourself, the true spring

Inside, and feel what it is to be chaste

Whether woman, man or beast.

And so Artemis and Aphrodite can hold hands

And Hephaestus and Ares too, their weapons down,

And Strife from the wedding kept, with her silly gold ball.

What happened to me upon her husband's return,

You might ask, if you can still consider

My tale worthy of your mind?  I knew

How Aegisthus fought the Argive King

Who tried to kill his wife for having a lover

Though he had his Briseis as concubine.

And the horror that Orestes then faced

When out of conflicting laws no man can solve,

He felt he had to kill his own mother.

I would not have Telemachus destroyed

Or Odysseus burn his own house down.

For who can rule the freedom of the kiss?

Spite and rage follow in its wake

And crash upon a lonely shore.

As for my beloved, my Penelope,

Queen of my heart forever, she

Gave herself back to the sailor of fate

Whom the poet of heroes praised.

But even the Myrmidon with the demon

in his chest would not have died

had it not been for that malice

that showed up at a wedding feast.

Love is stronger than the war its loss brings.

And is not bliss once gone more desired still?

So Penelope became Muse to my songs

of lovers, how Paris was forced to steal

The woman of his dreams when Aphrodite swayed.

Who knows what the gods condone in the dark grove

when they themselves have succumbed?

And how lovers will find each other trembling

with that touch more sweet when secret

no matter how would-be masters peep and rage.

Of Helen too I sing, cousin of my beloved,

Who went off with the shepherd prince,

one eye in joy, one in sorrow, for she knew

The chaos that love would have her make.

And the sacred three who claimed the fruit

Eris plucked from her tree of hate,

Were victims of their own envy and scorn,

The dross left behind when love's not golden.

Even Zeus could not settle the matter square.

Above all, who wants that hag Strife at a wedding feast?

And yet there she is – in our obsession to own.

No matter our will, fortune's wheel

gives way to necessity's spindle.

Even the gods cannot seal the book of fate,

Return the wave or unchop the tree.  This is why

Love cannot be forced for it chooses us,

In a whir of wings, in the arc of an arrow.

Its nature will out however pent up,

For she will deliver her babe anew.

And so I left Ithaka, even though

I knew he did not love her the way I did,

The reason why I do not hide my head in shame.

I continued in the path of Linus

And sang in many a land and isle

How Hermes is in love with the world

And out of longing makes eternal song.

This is the way of the ocean and the bard,

Her poet, whose heart and eyes cannot falter

As long as hers are in the world.

 

Coda:  Song of Archias

I swear you can see

By starlight

Looking straight into the night

Above a river.

I swear you can walk

The air that sways the bridge

And lift above the stream,

Never to be seen.

Come and join me here,

In the rain of the forest

And the suns inside the dew.

What are the woods without you?

And if you think time holds still

Waiting for your silent footfall

Across the moonlight over the stream

Where I lie awake with the owl,

What do you make of a flower

Not to smell it until tomorrow

When heaven would have taken its due

And the best has been lost to the wind?

Deliverance

 (aka, “Val can rarely bend the universe to her will“)

This movie made a great impression on me as a youngster: it seemed to be often in rotation on late-night TV, which I watched while my parents were enjoying their Game Night festivities with my older cousins. Come to think of it, I probably watched a lot of inappropriate things at a fairly young & impressionable age!?! (I accompanied my folks on their excursions to my cousin's house until I was 11 or 12 yrs old, at which point I was granted the great privilege of "Home Alone" status) What made the most impression on me as a kid was the awesome power of the river: it hurt me worse when Burt Reynold’s character broke his leg, rendering him helpless, than the infamous rape scene. (Don’t get me wrong - that was difficult to watch, too!) And poor drowned Drew with his arm pretzeled around the back of his head - a party trick Ronny Cox was able to do by subluxating his own shoulder...

It took me several attempts to read the book but I finally did - one of the few times I have judged the cinematic version to be superior to the literary experience! Yesterday was an experience in frustration & the general uncooperativeness of the universe, even though I did get a few things done; my day did not unfold neatly as it should - what a laugh, huh??

I had my long-awaited appointment w/the cardiologist yesterday (I was grateful when I made the appt 5 wks ago that it wasn't an urgent situation!?!) - I cleared my Thurs morning schedule "just in case" we needed to proceed with a full cardiac workup. Silly me, as it turned out, all they did was an ECG; I'm scheduled next week for a stress test, & sometime in Sept for an echocardiogram. I had hoped to see Z & deliver his few paltry souvenirs from NM, but he had gone to take an aptitude exam for the Navy? Not that I think the Navy would be a bad choice, kinda following in his grandfather's footsteps, but somehow I don't envision my son as a career sailor...

"He Still Hasn't Found What He's Looking For"

In other news, Tina Fea's condition waxes & wanes - I really though I might be making a hard decision today, but she's brightened up a bit & has regained 2 oz. As long as it looks like she wants to live, I'll keep trying this n' that.

Reality Check

 So once again, I’m bummed out as I have failed to keep up the pace during my 4th attempt to complete a 25-mi event this year… This week I will complete my 8-week course of PT for my back, which has been helpful for my comfort level even if not so much for my fitness. Also, early Thursday morning I go to see the cardiologist although I have no great hopes that he has much to offer me (just following through).

Last night as I wallowed in self-pity, I printed out my complete endurance riding history, which of course has been far from perfect! This season I am batting 0.200 as I have attempted 5 rides but only completed a single one successfully (February’s San Antonio event: mild weather & a great comfortable pace on the first loop, riding with my friend Kathy) But other than my failure to keep up the pace on Thursday, my summer pilgrimage to New Mexico was overall a net positive - even as I describe the bumps in the road!

Christina had previously told me that Catie would be unable to go as she was up to her earlobes in band activities, but she texted me on the 4th to say that Catie could come after all. Great! I only had to do some minor repacking &, most importantly, find a farrier for Baraq as my new guy had already come & gone the previous week. Thankfully, it all worked out as Hope (fellow rider & amateur farrier) would be attending (isn’t her name appropriate?)

I had already planned for myself to attempt the 25-miler on Thursday, have Friday off for my R&R, & just do the Intro ride on Saturday as I knew I would be starting my return trip. Thankfully I was able to transfer Catie to my friend Kathy on Friday for sponsorship** as she was going for her 3-day Pioneer ride. (They had a great time)

** all junior riders under the age of 16 must have an adult sponsor

I drove all the way there Tuesday so we would have a full day Wednesday to relax & recuperate (& get Baraq shod as I mentioned above). I had just stretched out for a brief nap mid day, but then poor Tina Fea fell off the bunk & suffered a grand mal seizure. She scared the heck out of Catie, nor did it make me feel good either - one category of medications I do not carry in my emergency kit are anticonvulsants! I made do the best I could with sedatives - what I could not answer is the chicken-or-egg question: did she start to have a seizure & fall out of the bunk, or fall from the bunk & hit her head to trigger the seizure? The ominous wildcard factor is that she has developed acute glaucoma in her right eye, which could be a sign of an underlying tumor…

At any rate, my poor baby continues to struggle, but I will not allow her to linger if the situation appears hopeless. Her appetite is poor, she’s lost more weight which she couldn’t afford in the first place! & when I got her back to the clinic to run some bloodwork, her kidney function is in decline…

I rode the Intro Saturday with an old friend Dawn, who was very nervous riding her green colt - but as it turned out, Twoie was the one who dumped me when we approached the tunnel under the highway coming back to camp. (He was startled by another rider’s sudden appearance) No harm, no foul as I landed upside down on the slope - I joked with Dawn that it was another unofficial bone density test! (Dawn is about my age & has had her fair share of injuries too)

I didn’t take very many pictures but here’s a few:

Don’t disturb the napping teenager!

Another Loop on the Rollercoaster

 Whelp it’s kinda like TX weather - all I’ve gotta do is wait a little bit… Z called me yesterday  evening all bummed out & telling me he’s “Done”. (He’s had 2 therapy sessions, to see how he got along w/2 different therapists. Part of it is frustration on all the time “wasted” on filling in history - the simplest question of “Where are you from?” is complicated since Z was a “homeless” child of divorce. He never knew life outside of fractured households since M divorced me when Z was 11 mos old) I don’t know what to tell him, other than apologizing while offering to pay for said therapy?

While I must admit, I was never impressed w/V: I thought she was superficial, immature & very high-maintenance - I still wanted Z to find love & I cannot shoehorn him into my expectations. He seemed to find purpose in months past, trying to make V happy. But life can’t be an endless series of vacations, restaurant meals, & shopping trips…

Z was meeting his friend Josef (who served dual purpose as Best Man & “Bridesman” - what do you call a male bridal attendant? - since Josef is friends w/both of them) for dinner, so I hope his input is helpful…