Tuesday, September 1, 2026

Drinking from a Cesspool…

  … yet you expect none of it to splash back or sicken you?!? It is REDDIT, after all!!! You were just damn lucky that neither of your previous “Girl Dinner Diary” entries caught anyone’s attention.

If only my poor little ol’ iPad were cooperative**, I would copy & paste but I’ll have to do it on the desktop mañana. ** this device has more sense than you - it won’t even link up to Reddit anymore!

Let me wring my hands in glee as the evil Boomer boymom. I freely admit I don’t approve of my DIL & it’s not because no one is good enough for my boy - I didn’t want to type so much backstory that people gave up on reading it, but “I have my reasons” with my Piscean intuition being first & foremost. (AI my ass - no, “those boomers just write like that”! you mean, in a literate manner??) I’ll suppress my evil cackling as I say AckTuaLLy, I am an old Gen X’er; maybe even Gen Jones dependent on how fine you want to split them hairs!

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I haven’t had good feelings about my son‘s GF/fiancée/new wife from the get-go. (they’ve been together for 4 yrs, engaged for 2.5, married 6 mos ago)
From what I could see, their relationship seemed supremely unbalanced: with Z turning himself inside out to please her, yet never quite measuring up?
I flat-out told him a few months ago that V seemed to have an unrealistic view of what their life should be: very few can live life as an unending sequence of nice vacations, elaborate shopping trips, & fine dining. Between the two of them, they have amassed a crushing load of credit card debt…
Then Z laid down The New Rules: basically I must wait for an invitation & let V take the lead in establishing our relationship. Understood! Last night I got a taste of what this new configuration will be - Z called me to invite me to a movie which was starting in 45 minutes. The problem is, I live an hour away. Whoopsie! Z dangled the possibility of catching a movie this evening like you’d tease yr dog w/a toy, but subsequently backed out.
So I can foresee how this is going to be: last-minute invitations can mean that V gets credit for “trying” & can plead confusion thereafter when Things Just Aren’t Working Out…
In a way, this is a relief bcz there has been lots of drama - gotta let these young adults handle they own lives, amirite?!?
Nevertheless, I’m soothing my anxiety with Tex-Mex

[LET THE PILE-ON BEGIN!!!]

(I'll start with the favorable comment:)

Girl, you picked the worst forum to share this lol. The only thing this forum hates more than middle aged and elderly women is middle aged and elderly mothers of boys and men.

There is nothing you can do about this. It's his mistake to make—let him have at it.

[After that, most of it was clueless youngsters decrying me as the MIL from Hell, aka the Evil BoyMom]

Yikes. Girl...Um....I need some context.

EDIT: I'm questioning whether this post is real or not. It sounds like boymom ragebait fanfiction ngl. Okay. I just saw her previous posts/comments on her profile This post is a bit more believable now. Oh boy.


Yeah, it reads a lot like a typical overbearing mom who is leaving a lot about her behavior out. The kids are grown. Let them live their lives. The DIL and the son can read her dripping contempt a mile away and are acting accordingly.

[The 'dripping contempt' with which I have tried to advise & support them, alrighty then!?!]


This person actually does make a few good points:

YOUR son is choosing this. Your son chose that woman. Your son spent that money. Your son. Your. Son.

This woman isn’t doing anything except being the woman HE CHOSE.

You only have the option to drive him away or play ball girlie girl. My husband didn’t talk to his parents for two years because they didn’t like me. That’s her husband now. It’s their lives. Let them live it and find out where you fit in.

[I will be bookmarking this post to see where we stand in another year or two]

Monday, August 31, 2026

Begin Again

 (I realize I’ve used some version of “restart” multiple times as a title for previous posts)

Thankfully, I feel as if I’m beginning to emerge from that black sweltering cloud of depression I’ve been encased by over this past week - accompanied by an uptick in COPD symptoms which I hope have been aggravated by this hot, dry weather & seasonal allergies (worsened shortness of breath & a “heaviness” in my chest which isn’t exactly pain, but isn’t exactly comfortable either). I attended my final session of PT last Thursday; I now need to commit to some sort of gym for “accountability” since I don’t seem to be consistent enough, trying to do exercises at home…

But my Monday is off to a good start: I awakened at 6 AM & instead of grumpily rolling over & bedding down with the little dogs for another hour, I rolled out & did a little light yoga which is wonderful for ye olde mood! I expected next-to-nothing** from DS & that’s exactly what I received, although admittedly I was a little disappointed to have a small flag of opportunity dangled before me which was then snatched away…

** Z called me around midday on Saturday & seemed a little perturbed that I had carried on with my plans to take friend Toni to her grandson’s Pee-Wee football game - “Call me when you’re done Mom”, which I did. I called him at 5 PM; he was finishing up grocery shopping & said he’d call me back. Z then called me at 7 PM to invite me to a movie at 7:45 - the problem is, I was about an hour away! I offered to jump in the car immediately - I theoretically could’ve gotten there just as the previews were finishing, but Z changed lanes & said maybe we would go tomorrow (i.e. Sunday). Then of course, when I called him mid-afternoon yesterday to see if we potentially had any plans, he backed out. So I see how things are gonna be - a last-minute invitation still counts, don’t it??

“Relax, don’t do it - when you want to go to it“

                                                      Max & his SuperFootball Mom Emilie

 "Max's 3 Noni's" - admittedly I am an Honorary Noni; I lean more into my Auntie Val persona! You can see Toni sticking close to that narrow band o' shade provided by the power pole...



Friday, August 28, 2026

The Next Phase

 The unknown future rolls toward us. I face it for the first time with a sense of hope, because if a machine, a Terminator, can learn the value of human life, maybe we can, too.

Here Val goes again, drawing inspiration from old sci-fi… (and now I’ve messed up my usual font but I seem to be unable to fix it so I’ll carry on)

I know I’ve made references to sawing through that gnarly ol’ umbilical cord for quite a while now, but Zach beat me to it. Last week I traded in my little baby Buick which was getting to “that age” when more repairs would be piling up. The strange thing is, Zach & Victoria had been entertaining themselves by test-driving some vehicles a couple of weeks ago, but he found a couple of prospects for me. So I suffered through the interminable ordeal of buying this car last week, but unfortunately the dealership did not configure my LoJack anti-theft system! I had to go back up yonder yesterday - since I would be “passing through the neighborhood” I decided to stop by to see Zach…

I beat Zach home by a bit, only to hear these timeless words after he got home & we observed the pleasantries: “Mom, I have some things I need to tell you”! I’ll spare you the tedious blow-by-blow, but Queen Vic is holding some grudges against me for past transgressions, which include feeding the snake in their bathtub (this is an incident that occurred 3 yrs ago, before I bought Mila her new habitat), & intruding without an engraved invitation (I’ve always called or texted, never dropping in unannounced although admittedly - especially when I’m delivering gifts or supplies! I have given them admittedly short notice so mea culpa on that). Bottom line, sounds as if future social interactions will be by (their) invitation only. Even though part of me is annoyed, another part is relieved as all this recent “drama” has been frustrating… Being forced to step back is actually a relief - I need to let Zach figure out these grown-up problems on his own. “A son is a son till he takes a wife”, indeed!

Zach is lucky that his mom is the “slow burn” type; I don’t want his marriage to fail, but he may find things are harder than he predicted when:

A.) Mom doesn’t immediately answer nor return texts & calls right away. The newlywed rollercoaster has been a little “too much”! I immediately dropped what is probably an annoying habit in Z’s eyes (even if he didn’t complain about it): sending him & occasionally V interesting or noteworthy links from my perusings of the news & social media. Here’s a good one concerning Trump’s latest idiocy

B.) Z is way overdue picking up the tabs for his cell phone (!!!), car insurance & multiple streaming services. The newlyweds have built up quite an impressive anchor of credit card debt as they are preparing to return yet again to Vegas for Labor Day weekend. Again, Z will have to figure this out… My son “may” have a gambling problem.

C.) This makes me seriously consider changing my will, since part of Z’s long-term plan seems to be counting on a substantial inheritance from Yours Truly. I made the mistake of informing him a while back that “All This Shall Be Yours” even though I will, of course, allow Peran to live on the farm as long as he wishes to if I predecease him (a “life estate”, if memory serves). With what feels like the worsening state of my health these days, these are true concerns.

In other news, I do plan to make at least one more attempt at an endurance event the first weekend of October. A successful completion would do my mood a world of good!


Sunday, August 23, 2026

Today & Tomorrow

 There is nowhere to go but onward - my obsessing about the past will never resurrect it.

This morning Katie-mule failed to come up for breakfast - when I went out looking for her,  I found her dead in the bottom pasture, stretched out peacefully with no signs of a struggle. She had a minor episode of colic last month - I’ve been mixing up rice bran water for the ponies, but it isn’t as if I can bring them into the AC to rescue them from this oppressive heat; it’s already 95° & climbing at 11 AM this morning.

I had given consideration to taking a short ride by myself to lick my wounds from yesterday’s rejection. Karen had texted me about a juvenile red-eared slider brought into their clinic yesterday morning - the corner of his shell was cracked clear through (a glancing blow from an auto tire). We both needed to go by the feed store, but when I suggested that we grab a bite she accused me of “always looking for an excuse to eat” - ouch! Mea culpa for finding pleasure in socializing over a meal, but Karen & I had not met up for several weeks - to me it seemed like a good chance to kill two birds with one stone!

I realize she’s been incredibly busy: helping to raise her granddaughter, mediating the conflict between her  young adult daughters (I think Karen displays a marked preference towards Teen Mom Melissa but that’s a subject for another post!), but “I Yam what I Yam” - my predilection toward restaurant meals ain’t gonna change this late in the game! It’s too damn hot to cook anyway - last night I made a pot of rice & whipped up a nice Diane sauce for some leftover steak, yet I almost had to vacate the kitchen, all puns intended… There was no where to go to get out of the heat that’s for sure!

But regardless of my self-pity, I’ve got to go check on my tiny patient & get a few things done, despite this devitalizing heat. September is right around the corner - where did August go??

Saturday, August 22, 2026

We Couldn’t Save the Cheerleader

 I was saddened to hear of Hayden Panettiere‘s death yesterday. Zach & I whiled away many hrs working our way through the “Heroes” saga back in the day - I liked it so much I even bought the set of DVDs…

 A prophetic tweet:

Oh my god, bad things happen. People cheat, spouses die. Sure this path led to divorce, but who is to say some other one would have had a magical happily ever after? 

My aunt married the love of her life, had two kids, and he abruptly died of cancer at 42. Should she have chosen someone else who wouldn’t get cancer? 

It is the same concept. People change, they fall out of love, they make bad decisions, they sometimes just die. Nobody gets a magic do over, so what is the point in wasting time lamenting the decisions that were made? It is over! It happened! There is only today and tomorrow. 

I can’t change what was, and there is no way whatsoever to know if a different decision would have led to a better outcome. It is all just fantasy.

Tuesday, August 18, 2026

Val vs Family Court

For whatever reason, I have been following the controversy surrounding the accidental drowning of Nolan Wells with great interest... While I feel great sympathy for Christine Wells ("there but by the grace of God go I" - when Zach was going through his Maximum Overdrive Party Phase, I often held myself braced for that phone call. Was it going to be an overdose, (another) car accident, or simple alcohol poisoning?) - both sides of our Great Cultural Divide have been wrong in the extreme, with one side attacking Christine for her perceived maternal deficiencies, the other piling on Sarah for trying to unearth truthful evidence...

I’ll just post Sarah’s complete essay, cringing in unpleasant memories of my own trial by fire in Texas family courts… Z’s father likewise went scorched-earth on me - preferring to attack me in custody battles & psych evaluations rather trying to work together to get Zach through his teenage reckless experimentation phase. (in which he prevailed, having hired the better attorney, a born-again Christian GAL who believed that fathers should hold the ultimate authority, & incompetent student psych evaluators - a trifecta of tragedy!) Zach was working through this whole nonsense again Sunday afternoon**, during a prolonged “phone consultation” - Mom doesn’t seem to be able to do much to help him except serve as his sounding board!

** for whatever reason, Z had tried to establish contact with his father again - which turned out to be a frustrating 10-min phone conversation

[Sarah Fields is an investigative journalist who also reported on the Karmelo Anthony case]


 Sarah J Fields

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🚨RUMORS VS. RECORDS: The Truth About Christine Wells’ 12-Year Custody Case
There are a LOT of rumors and speculation circulating about Nolan Wells’ mother, Christine Wells, and an old custody case involving her children. Some of the posts I have seen take a few pieces of the court docket and then fill in the blanks with assumptions. I have now obtained multiple actual court documents spanning more than a decade of this case, from the original custody litigation in 2007 through the final agreement in 2019.
So instead of repeating rumors, I’m going to walk you through what the records actually show, what was merely alleged, what we still do not know, and how this case ultimately ended. Buckle Up.
Before I get into any of it, I need to make one thing VERY clear because I keep seeing people attempting to drag Nolan into this custody case: NONE OF THIS INVOLVED NOLAN WELLS. This case involved Christine Wells and her three older children with James E. Briscoe Jr. Nolan was not one of the children involved in these custody proceedings. Nothing I have reviewed establishes that any allegation made in this case involved Nolan or that anything alleged regarding these three children ever happened to Nolan. There is plenty contained in these records to investigate without inserting him into a custody case that had nothing to do with him.
I have also seen claims that the “State of Mississippi” has been leaking Christine’s court documents. I have found nothing supporting that allegation. The docket being circulated online comes from the Jackson County Chancery Court case inquiry system, and the screenshot itself is marked PUBLIC. Someone obtaining records from a public court system is not evidence that the State of Mississippi is secretly leaking someone’s records. All records I have obtained are public record and subject to open record request.
I will say that, even though these are public records, I stay ethical in my reporting, and I have redacted all minor’s names and private information.
Another claim being repeated is that Christine was judicially declared an “unfit mother.” I have not found an order saying that either. What I HAVE found are some very serious allegations made against Christine by the natural father of these three children. There is a huge difference between allegations contained in one parent’s court filing and findings made by a judge, and I am going to make that distinction throughout my article.
The original case began in January 2007, and one detail immediately corrects part of the narrative circulating online: Christine was actually the plaintiff. She initiated the custody action. James E. Briscoe Jr. responded in February 2007 with an Answer, Affirmative Defenses and Counterclaim seeking custody himself.
Briscoe acknowledged that he was the natural father of all three children: a daughter born in December 2004 and twin boys born in April 2006. The pleadings state that Christine and Briscoe had never married. They also give us some information about the family’s living arrangements. According to Briscoe’s filing, before October 2006, the infant twins had lived with both Christine and James at an apartment in Pascagoula. Their older daughter had been living with her paternal grandmother. By approximately October 2006, according to Briscoe, all three children were living with Christine in Moss Point.
This is where Briscoe’s counterclaim becomes much more concerning. And before anyone takes these quotes and runs with them, I want to be perfectly clear: these are allegations made by James Briscoe in a court filing. I am NOT representing them as proven facts or judicial findings.
Briscoe alleged that “urgent and necessitous circumstances” existed. He claimed Christine “will not allow visitation between the Defendant and the minor children herein.” But his allegations went well beyond a father complaining that he wasn’t being allowed to see his children.
Briscoe specifically alleged, “The Plaintiff, CHRISTINE C. WELLS, is unstable.” He further stated, “The Plaintiff has unstable housing, unstable employment and an inadequate place for the children to live among other things that are detrimental to the minor child.” He then said that “The said circumstances do not serve the best interest of the children and the said circumstances are detrimental to the minor children.”
Those are serious allegations, particularly when you understand just how young these children were at the time. When Briscoe filed his counterclaim in early 2007, the oldest child was barely two years old, and the twins were only around nine months old. These were babies and toddlers.
Briscoe wasn’t simply asking for more visitation. He specifically asked the court to give him “the legal care, custody and control of the minor children,” with Christine receiving reasonable visitation. He alleged that he was “a fit and proper person to have custody” and argued that placing the children with him would serve “the best interest of the minor children.” He also asked that Christine be required to pay child support and a portion of the children’s uninsured expenses.
Again, Briscoe making those allegations does NOT establish that they were all true. But it establishes something important that shouldn’t be ignored: concerns about Christine’s stability, housing, employment and the children’s living circumstances were being raised by the children’s father in court in 2007. These allegations weren’t created on social media after Nolan’s death.
Then we get to what I consider one of the most interesting portions of this entire case.
On August 22, 2007, the parties entered an Agreed Temporary Order giving Christine and Briscoe joint legal AND physical custody of the children. At the same time, attorney Wendy C. Hollingsworth was appointed Guardian ad Litem, commonly called a GAL.
A Guardian ad Litem is brought into a custody case to focus on the interests and welfare of the children. Considering that these were three extremely young children and that serious allegations had already been made regarding their circumstances, the GAL’s involvement is important.
Then, on September 13, 2007, the docket shows a Motion for Extension of Time to File Guardian ad Litem Report. In other words, there was a GAL report being prepared, and additional time was requested to file it.
Exactly three weeks later, on October 4, 2007, another Agreed Order was entered.
This time, James E. Briscoe Jr. was established as the natural father of the three children, Briscoe received legal custody and Christine received visitation.
🚨 So, sequence of events - Christine and Briscoe have joint legal AND physical custody. A Guardian ad Litem is appointed. A GAL report is being prepared. Additional time is requested to file that report. Exactly three weeks later, the father has legal custody and Christine has visitation.
Considering the ages of these children, I find that outcome noteworthy. Their oldest child wasn’t even three years old, and the twins were approximately a year and a half old. Ultimately, the court entered an arrangement placing legal custody with their father instead of continuing the joint legal and physical custody arrangement that had existed only weeks earlier.
I DO consider that a loss for Christine. She went from joint legal and physical custody to the father having legal custody while she had visitation. But there is an extremely important detail that needs to be included if we’re going to report this accurately: the October order was an AGREED ORDER.
That means I cannot tell you that a judge conducted a contested custody trial, heard all of the evidence, declared Christine unfit and independently stripped her of custody. The documents I have reviewed do not say that. They establish that an agreed order was entered giving Briscoe legal custody and Christine visitation.
And frankly, that leaves me with an even bigger question: What happened between August 22 and October 4 that resulted in Christine going from joint legal AND physical custody of three very young children to agreeing to an arrangement where their father had legal custody and she had visitation?
Sitting directly in the middle of that period is the Guardian ad Litem investigation. And sitting exactly three weeks before the custody change is a request for additional time to file the GAL report.
Do I find that interesting? Absolutely. Do I want to know what Wendy Hollingsworth found? Absolutely. But I do not currently have that GAL report, and therefore I am not going to pretend I know what it says. I cannot tell you that the GAL found Christine dangerous, abusive, neglectful or unfit. I cannot tell you that the GAL substantiated Briscoe’s allegations. And I cannot tell you that the GAL recommended that Briscoe receive custody.
On November 28, 2007, the docket shows an order concerning the Guardian ad Litem’s fees and expenses. Then, in March 2008, the case came back before the court for a review hearing pursuant to the October 4 Agreed Order.
The March 27, 2008 Agreed Judgment states that Christine and Briscoe reached an agreement regarding the remaining issues of child support, medical insurance, dental insurance, life insurance and other related matters. Christine was ordered to pay Briscoe $66 per week in child support for the three children, beginning April 4, 2008. They were also ordered to equally share uninsured medical, dental, pharmaceutical, ocular, psychological, psychiatric and other related medical expenses.
Then! Almost a decade later, in 2017, James Briscoe returned to court seeking an increase in the $66-per-week child-support obligation Christine had been ordered to pay him. He alleged a “substantial and material change in circumstances,” including what he described as a significant increase in Christine’s salary. This was likely related to the fact that Christine was now a licensed nurse. He also argued that the children’s expenses had increased as they grew older, specifically mentioning expenses involving food, clothing, band, sports, instruments and uniforms.
Briscoe asked the court to increase Christine’s child support and sought additional insurance-related relief. He also signed the petition under oath. I don’t think the 2017 support dispute needs to be sensationalized. Its importance to this timeline is that nearly a decade after the 2008 judgment, Briscoe was still litigating under the existing arrangement in which Christine paid him child support.
Then, 11 years after the original custody change, the case took ANOTHER turn.
In 2018, Christine sought to modify custody and initially obtained an order giving her custody of the three children. The court subsequently determined that James Briscoe had not been properly served with the required Rule 81 summons. Because of that procedural problem, the June 2018 custody modification was set aside, the prior arrangement was reinstated, and the children were ordered returned to Briscoe until a trial could be held on the remaining issues. The court also ordered the children to remain in the Ocean Springs school system because it found doing so was in their best interests.
This is honestly sad to me. This means they went from his household, to her household, then back to his household. Being jerked around in the system is never a good life for children.
The order giving Christine custody was set aside because of a procedural/service problem. I have not seen evidence that the judge vacated it because the court made a new finding that Christine was unfit or that Briscoe was the superior parent.
And then we finally get to the end of the story.
In January 2019, Christine and Briscoe reached an Agreed Final Order providing for joint legal AND joint physical custody of all three children. Under that agreement, the children would alternate between Christine and Briscoe on a week-to-week basis. Neither parent would pay child support because each parent would be responsible for the children’s expenses during his or her respective custody periods.
That ended matters.
If someone tells you Christine “lost her children in 2007” and stops the story there, they are spreading misinformation to sensationalize this story. I fully understand that accusations and horrific threats have been made so far in this case, but we do not need to lower ourselves to their standard by spreading more misinformation. She did lose the joint custody arrangement she had in 2007 when Briscoe received legal custody and she received visitation. That arrangement remained significant for years, and Christine was still paying Briscoe child support under the 2008 judgment when he sought an increase in 2017. But Christine later sought custody again, and by January 2019, the parents ultimately agreed to equal joint legal and physical custody.
So after going through the records, here is where I land.
Yes, the father of Christine’s three older children made serious allegations against her involving instability, housing, employment and what he described as circumstances detrimental to their very young children.
Yes, Christine went from joint legal and physical custody to an arrangement giving the father legal custody and giving her visitation.
Yes, a Guardian ad Litem was appointed shortly before that happened, and the timing of the GAL report and subsequent custody change is interesting.
Yes, Christine was subsequently ordered to pay the father child support, and that arrangement was still being litigated nearly a decade later.
But NO, I have not found an order declaring Christine an “unfit mother.”
NO, I do not have evidence establishing that every allegation Briscoe made against her was true.
NO, I do not know what the Guardian ad Litem ultimately found or recommended.
And most importantly, NO, NONE OF THIS INVOLVED NOLAN WELLS.
Nolan was not one of the children involved in this custody case. These proceedings concerned Christine’s three older children with James Briscoe. Trying to take allegations made regarding those children in 2007 and retroactively attach them to Nolan is not good reporting. We are above that.

Monday, August 3, 2026

Photo Dump (OKC)

 

Meeting room of the Fordson Hotel
Breakfast cafe of the Fordson
Mini-Riverwalk in Bricktown
Z & his favorite veggie at the Farmer's Market
Farmer's Market March (yes that is my finger)