Yesterday was a stress-fest between “an ordinary Monday” & the fact that Zach drove out to visit his dad** - Z had asked him to help fix the grill on his car even though I advised Z that “juice probably wasn’t worth the squeeze” - I’d have been happy to deal with the little body shop in Mesquite who fixed a scratched & dented fender on my little Buick for a reasonable cost…
** Zach must do 100% of any effort involved in maintaining a relationship with his father as far as calling him, driving out to his place, etc. etc. Of course I realize it’s completely up to them to negotiate their adult relationship, but Zach wants so badly for his father to behave somewhat normally - from what I can see, that’s never gonna happen. My ex-mule Coyote is still alive at age 33 even though he looks like the wrath of God (aka a walking skeleton) - I know Michael has done none of the routine maintenance one needs to do for a senior equine like dentistry, special feed, etc. Zach sent me some photos which just broke my heart all over again - while I would dearly love to bring Coyote home and give him the kind of pampering that he deserves, I know Michael would keep him from me just for spite. (Long backstory: Michael and I had switched horses when I was pregnant with Zach since Coyote was still fairly green & had tossed me a few times, so I took over his Arabian Wynkhy. When everything came to a head, Zach was about eight months old - Michael was moving out & he threatened to take Wynk to the slaughterhouse. I could only save one animal at a time so I let him take Coyote while I kept Wynk. I gave Wynk the TLC he deserved, until he died peacefully at age 25)So it took me a long time to go to sleep last night - grieving my ex-mule, worrying about my son, etc.
Why should I have any involvement in these matters at all, you might ask? I had to get a play-by-play from my son who called me multiple times throughout the day (last call being The Final Synopsis after Z returned home about 9 PM) Oh, & Victoria learned that Alex & Haley are still in Chicago; Haley is expecting their second child as Alex has still not found long-term steady employment.
I get similar play-by-plays from my child. I told her I can't wear everyone's problems like a coat. I listen, then try to forget...blog coming.
ReplyDeleteOh, heart goes out to you, hearing the blow by blow from your Z. I am having similar "venting to mom" calls from my own son as he goes through the vicissitudes of the foster care system that seems to be jerking both foster parents and foster kids around to meet a "plan" that is far from perfect. Sigh.
ReplyDeleteI am going to try to give you a link to a facebook post from David Attenborough fans. You may have already seen it, but it made me think of you... it's about a mule blowing away the competition at a Dressage meeting. You may have to copy and paste: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1Dwmc5XPJf/
ReplyDeleteActually I did see that post about the indomitable Wallace! My ex also wanted to succeed in having my mule Coyote be the first mule to complete in the Pan-American Championship ride in 1999 - which merits an entry all its own, it was quite the accomplishment. Finishing dead last is still a successful completion!
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